Change

    Happy Throwback Thursday, as it is known in the facebook and instagram world.  My Throwback Thursday is more of a mental thing instead of a photo thing.  I have downloaded the app, Timehop, on my iphone.  I love it.  It goes back one year, 2 years, etc. It has been fun going down memory lane, but it has also reminded me of all the changes I have been through in the last five years.  Since that time, I have divorced, married, moved 3 times, graduated from college, got 2 jobs, left one, completed an internship, bought and sold way too many cars, taught 2 kids to drive, repaired relationships, traveled, anyway, you get the point.  All of these events have brought major changes in my life.  Some I have welcomed and some I have reluctantly resigned myself too.  Change is the natural ebb and flow of life, so how do you welcome change?  I usually grasp it with open arms as I love new experiences, but it seems to get a little harder the older I become.  I guess the whole, cannot teach an old dog new trick kind of concept.  Circumstances that made me unhappy were easy to change.  Not that they did not come with heartache and a whole lot of stress.  We were listening to the radio this morning and one of my favorite Sheryl Crow songs came on.  The lyrics are:  "If it makes you happy, it can' be that bad, if it makes you happy, then why are you so sad". To me, this means you are just going through the motions of trying to convince yourself that you are happy, when you are actually not.  Like when I was trying to make my 15 year marriage work.  I was unhappy and he was unhappy.  We were going through the motions and not enjoying life or each other.  When we finally separated (which was extremely difficult) and divorced and then remarried, we found our happiness.  He is very happy with his new wife and step kids and I am very happy with my new hubby and step kids.  I did not realize how unhappy I was until I discovered my true happiness.  Now, please do not misunderstand, I am not advocating divorce, at all.  Your unhappy situation could be a job situation, a friend relationship that is not working out, etc.  I just used my divorce situation as an example of "faking it until you make it".  There are certain things in my life that I would Love! to change, but cannot.  Due to circumstances way beyond our control, some situations just need to be understood that they cannot be changed regardless of how you try.  That is when my next theme song comes into play, "Let it Go".  I have discussed this before, and yes, it really does help.  So change what you can and let go of what you cannot and do not let it interfere with your happy.  Hubby reminds me of this when I start to go there.  Like he says, I could give two shits about it so why should you.  Not a very eloquent way of putting it, but it does reel me back in.

  Speaking of happy, Happy 49th Anniversary to my fabulous in-laws, Don and Bettye Francis.  They have a wonderful marriage and I love them both dearly.  They have welcomed me with open arms and have supported me from the beginning.  I am very thankful to have two sets of amazing parents who love me unconditionally.  

Enjoy your Thursday!  I can see the tip of the weekend!!!

Hugs!